Family Unties

[Nan]

Marcy, since my mother died on August 20th last year I’m much freer and I have a better relationship with my sister-in-law and brother. Also reached out to three ladies who were my best friends growing up. We all met up at our 45th high school reunion last October and it was as if no time had passed. Lots of wounding has been healed and continues to do so.

There’s lots more I could say but I’ll leave it at that. I’m glad you’re sharing about your family wounding and healing. Much love. 🤍

[Darla]

I’m just coming back in to catch up after a tough December for me and seeing this post. Marcy it doesn’t sound crazy AT ALL I have experienced & feel so much of all you have described. So very much so I’m so grateful you shared this story and experience.

I felt more sad and a need to disconnect in December with most people outside my home which is just me and my 3 kids who thankfully are soul family. There were a few exceptions like my father And like you there have been family tests hitting hard and I wondered about severing the relationship. And that’s not easy in a big family that talks daily as in ours and a strain on the others who aren’t involved.

I stepped back with such a new sense of strength and peace and just like you had so much more time, focus & success on ME for once. Can’t remember the last time where I could sort of come first a little bit! Lol

For me that big positive shift came a few days after 2025 began

I’m not sure if this helps in any way but I also struggled with “allowing” them to treat me the way they did But I was reminded they are just very young souls who need to live probably 40,000 more lifetimes before their heart can open So that maybe it really is my job to allow it to an extent and do so coming from a place of showing Grace Reminding myself that they sort of don’t know any different/better And it’s up to me to stay as “unmoved” by all the drama and just continue to be a light and pave the way Be & Do me and let them be where they’re at

Since doing that a few days ago, I’m letting go of the prior need for an apology and just not allowing them or it to take energy away from me and my new mission that’s finally become clear to me That a story is like to share and get feedback on but wondering where in the site to share it?! 🤔

And that was a long note! And I too am ok with that lol I just hope maybe it helps 🩷

[Marcy]

That helped, thank you. Took me a minute. I paused, reminded myself. My sister is not my parent, who has a personality disorder, different ball game. And I thought I forgave, I realized I hadn’t….accepted her, accepted it the way it is.

I spent part of today crying ~ transition of presidents, fires, family, monsters, mayhem. The biggest hardship, not knowing exactly what step is next, alone figuring it out, while feeling for a moment this country stepping out to a turn in history…

I have few relationships now. I am not married. My soul family has resisted connecting with me, so far. Bio mother’s family. I am supposed to try again. I will. Stepping forward alone, again, and again, is a hard ballgame. Today it was harder.

<font face=”inherit”>I am inspired by the new directions, new missions coming online for others! I hope you share your next chapter! Maybe New Earth Leadership or wherever feels right?! A discussion I would like to start, lining up the right practical support/guidance system for movement back into the world and next level mission.

(I have dealt directly with so many really terrible people/energies, purposefully, for so long, continuously. I am assured I won’t be now. Heaven has cleared so much, made it easy, to take this next very unique first step. God be with me.) ✌🤟💛 Thank you for what you shared, Darla

[A S]

Amazing Marcy!!! Amazing. 👌🏽🤗🎉

I loved the title too…..Family Unties.

Perhaps we need to stop having the label Family Friends etc. too. Or shift their meanings or something. Or use them for reference points but not all the underlying trauma/drama those labels carried in some places. Perhaps we just let everyone be the human they are and regulate our interactions by the energy exchange/feel. No need to keep anyone or let anyone go. Just letting them and ourselves be.

Resonance will naturally regulate the comings and goings too.

I loved the description of everything. So clear and succinct. And the underlying structure beneath everything so articulate.

The telling your sister how she made you feel without caring who overheard and posting without thinking about what other people would think are two things that were in my journey as well. Telling people things without being hush hush has been a great freedom giver. And doing things without wondering how everyone will be impacted and trusting it’ll all be good (because genuine Heart movement) has also been a great freedom giver.

Lovely Marcy. Lovely!

I feel all the ‘ME’ you are in this post!

[Marcy]

Thank you Amrit!! I meant to say, what a lovely reply!!!

[Nabila]

Such a great post @marcy and very timely as I’ve been getting to the point you’re at over the last few months.

A lot to do and navigate with my family of origin . Very similar to you -dementia which has taken away the long term charge I’ve had with my father. It’s like in the end everything dissolves and expectations on both sides just disappears. Weird but freeing feeling. Loss of need for justice for me and the realisation that now I really don’t seem to matter to him. Not in a negative way but he’s happy to see me but the energetic demands are zero. Realised this was how it always could have been if I’d only known .

Mother wound still operates at times but her own journey is teaching her. I don’t need to ‘ help’. Stay neutral most of the time and when triggered take better care of myself rather than chew on the old fat of hurt and wounds of poor nurturing.

It’s like watching a tv drama with the sound off… mostly.

Also came clean with sister of late. Handed my excessive responsibility for her feelings back to her. and said gently, powerfully with grace how I really felt receiving her constant passive aggressive snide barbs/ commentary on my life. I’ve known it jealousy on so many levels in spite of her life probably being in better shape than mine .

When I called her out since then she’s been upping her game and ditched some of her incessant whining that is rooted in the energetic of victimhood.

I can’t buy into victimhood of any kind anymore and I’ve secretly been like this for years, but saying it out loud with no expectations seems to have freed things up.

She’s super polite now. Hoping she’s not egg shell walking but even if she is I’ve stopped worrying. I trust myself that I am kind, have heart at my centre and my trained thru trauma propensity to rescue, soothe , create harmony seems to be waning all by itself.

I am super aware of all my trauma based reactions too and am pausing prior to thinking/ feeling/ acting with improved consciousness.

Also feeling a rise in desire for my needs, wants and excitement that has been absent for decades. I suddenly feel inspiration that isn’t tinged with some shadow.

I feel that by my March birthday things will have shifted even more.

Thank you for sharing… all of you 💫🥰

[Marcy]

Hi Nabila! @nabilarc I am amazed similar has been happening for you — “powers” that be turning off or down, sometimes even done for you, in relationships. Yes, the experience of bizarre bitter sweetness…that is a kicker, has caused a little sadness, feeling of failure for months. It is hard to see that maybe I could have put my foot down more and sooner, created a SAFER world a long time ago.

“Realized this was how it always could have been if I’d only known…” And yet so much abuse, deprivation… I need to forgive myself. It was a scary lonely manipulative mess.

Yes, the voice is working!!! HaHA! it’s amazing! For me, no one is standing there to destroy it anymore. I am still unsure about standing up for me with family, but I am not stopped. I don’t what I should do, necessarily…..but with no survival mode, no victim identity now…. I am allowed to come up with what makes me feel better and try it and seeeee!!!😂😆😜 Like everybody else does!

I am also thinking/feeling multiple things I wish to enjoy again without darkness, shadow as you put it, interfering or distracting/deterring follow through… My physical energies are, it seems, shifting now, finally… I feel I can rise to the challenge. I sure hope!!! 😬🤗

Thank you for sharing.

[Nabila]

And just after I posted this I listened to Nancy Rebecca’s latest update.

Yesterday I kept getting the words secret keeper in my mind. Late last year I became privy to a family secret around my conception and birth. That I clearly had inklings of but no one until recently would come clean about.

Listening to this energetic input reminded me of this secret keeping / embodying along with all the Sisters of the Rose stuff 😳 and how it affects our biology . All NR’s info on where keeping secrets /tolerating family dynamics sit/affect the body is spot on.

This past week I’ve been feeling a form of release and increased energy to speak up plus changes in my throat chakra and the way my mind works . It’s felt like my brain is now working like a cog in a different direction than normal.

Just thought I’d share this video because it felt right on point for me. Keeping under the radar , toeing the line etc plus the collective secrets / lies are definitely getting aired.

https://www.youtube.com/live/lIwGXSZ1OZ0?si=lsSG1YDV0KInQJTr